SIMPLY FOCUS Podcast

SFP 6 – Episode 6: Solution Focused Listening

Simply Focus Podcast – Episode #6

Hosted by: Elfie Czerny & Dominik Godat | Intro: Bibiana Czerny & Tim King |Music: www.bensound.com 

SFP 6 - Episode 6: Solution Focused Listening

by Elfie Czerny & Dominik Godat | Simply Focus Podcast | 24:59

“Seeing this study shows so much about our influence as listeners and how important it is, if we want to bring out the greatness in other people, to truly listen for their brilliance. The brilliance is here. Always.”

Elfie Czerny

„You co-narrate the story that the other person tells with your listening. So your listening makes a difference. Your listening matters. And if you want to hear good stories listen attentively. And it will be much more easy for the other person to tell a good story.

Dominik Godat

Show Notes

In today’s episode, we talk about

  • what we love about the topic “listening”.
  • what differences it makes when we listen for the brilliance of people.
  • the “T study” that shows that as listeners we are co-narrators: when we listen attentively people are much better storytellers.
  • Nancy Kline’s time to think and how a good thinking environment produces better results.
  • how we do the “thinking rounds” and the differences this makes in our relationship and family life.
  • how in Solution Focused Listening we
  • how listen – select – build can be used in everyday conversations or how Dominik’s mum found 20 things that are already going in the right direction.
  • The weekly challenge: Chose one conversation each day where you decide to listen in a Solution Focused way for the brilliance of your conversation partner. After the conversation take a few minutes and discover what differences this made.

Resources

Join the conversation

Let’s make a difference for others, share your insights, and ask great questions! Friendpower is stronger than willpower. So, let’s inspire each other! Share your ideas and thoughts on what inspired you and what differences this makes for you in your everyday life. Share as much detail as possible. Your story might be the one making a vital difference for someone else. Your thoughts and ideas matter and might encourage others to keep on going their SF journey. If you have friends, clients or colleagues who you think might be inspired by this conversation, share this podcast episode. It could give them some practical ideas on how to apply Solution Focus in their daily work and life.

Thank you!

Thank you for listening to our podcast. You are awesome! That you listen to our podcast makes a huge difference for us. Please let us know and get in touch with us: Comment below or send us a message and tell us what difference our podcast series makes for you.

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4 Comments

  1. Pam King

    You might be interested to hear I listened to this episode just now for the third time. What I found especially useful was the T Study on careful listening and excellent storytelling. Listeners as co-narrators, I love it. I would like to reproduce thIs study. We should talk about this. I actually woke up thinking about this last week. That’s why I’m listening to it again today.

    • SF on Tour mit Elfie Czerny & Dominik Godat

      Thank you dear Pam. It’s so great to here this. We love the difference listening as co-narrators makes too. And yes, we’d love to talk about your idea with you. Hope to see you soon!

      Elfie & Dominik

  2. Ben Furman

    Bravo, you have a lovely style of explaining things clearly. What you describe is clearly beyond what has been called active listening. The idea of listening, then repeating and finally adding something is an old one but solution-focused listening is clearly something else. I like the idea of picking and you explain it very well. I often say that you can listen with different ears. Insoo Kim Berg had a special ear for listening to nuancies that had anything to do with success, or good ideas, or strengths. I like to think that this is perceived by listener as “appreciation” and this thing called appreciation is the key to human creativity. I know that’s just saying it in just a little bit different words. Thanks alot!

    • SF on Tour mit Elfie Czerny & Dominik Godat

      Thank you, dear Ben, for your kind words and your special ear. We like your way of seeing appreciation very much. This fits very well with our experiences and our ideas about appreciation, too. Thank you a lot for commenting and spreading!

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